Sometimes, we question our goodness, our best intentions, our heart and make decisions with our head vs our heart. We say yes when we mean no. We do things out of obligations. We focus on the one thing we didn’t do on our “to do” list vs. all of the wonderful things we’ve accomplished. We judge ourselves and others. Oooo! that is a biggie, the judgment.
Ever wonder, where these thoughts come from? your parents? relatives? cultural? maybe even generational?
Have you ever thought if this is even something you want to hang onto? or just maybe, you’ve been wearing it like an old favorite sweater without questioning WHY, because it’s all you’ve known…for ever and ever?
Last night, a client shared he never cried, and he thought there was something wrong with him….until his dog died. Then he gushed tears for a week, and when it stopped..he felt guilty about not crying anymore. He shared that his father never cried. We talked about society’s myths around men having to be strong etc. And how all of his crying, was not just about his dog, but for of the other feelings he may have held back. His dog was the catalyst for his grief. And how much lighter he felt once he was able to cry it out. How he didn’t cry much when his father died. Or when his parents divorced. How perhaps vulnerability is a gift from his beloved animal companion. Wow, powerful stuff right? His “bestness” allowed him to embrace all of his grief.
Next Thursday at noon, I will be talking about your “bestness” at onehealth.com in my series on bringing the bounce back into your life.
When are you at your best? What brings out the best in you? Who brings out the best in you?
There are stories about people achieving superman-like feats during times of great duress–think running into a burning building to save a baby, overturning cars to save a loved one.
Then there are stories where heroes overcome cancer, abuse, and tremendous strife to be changemakers in their world. They turn lemons into pitchers of lemonade to better their world.
Stories of entrepreneurs who took an idea and made it a reality. Taking risks for a strong belief, an idea in their head, and their heart.
Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Who is in your tribe?
Yesterday, I added to my tribe. (against all the stirrings in my head, I went with my heart) In the past 24 hours, all 5 lbs of her has brought out the best in me. My head judged my heart, questioning if this officially makes me a “crazy dog lady”. I made a list of why this was not a good time, etc. Was this my substitute for not being able to give Kayman a sister? so that I got her a 4-legged one instead?
At the end of the day, it is really simple. My heartstrings have been tugged, my heart wide open and singing this morning for this wee little one. My “bestness” has been upleveled, thanks to her.