On this day, most Americans will be celebrating their loved ones with candy, flowers, and other tokens of love. For those of use who have lost a loved one, ended a relationship recently, or missing old loves, this can be an emotionally charged day.
What if, today could also be the day that you open your heart to your own love? Instead of replaying scenes of what was, what could have been, should have been—here are some options to create a kinder, gentler valentine for yourself.
-Give yourself permission to feel whatever feeling is up for you today. Don’t put on a cheerful face for others if really what you feel inside is sad. If you feel like crying, it may be a good way to release emotions that may have been inside for a long time.
-Do something nice for others or yourself today. A random act of kindness goes a long way in making our heart sing. Put an extra quarter in the parked meter next to yours…leave a thank you note for your mailman…tell someone you love how much you care.
-Reach out and touch someone. Don’t isolate if you are feeling blue today. Get the support you need. Maybe it’s a call to a friend you haven’t spoke to in a while, or making an appointment to have tea with a girlfriend
-Bless our mess/count our blessings. Even in our darkest hours, there are silver linings, sometimes it take effort to dust them off and make life sparkle again…can you spend a few minutes to write down 3 things you are grateful for, 3 things you enjoy doing, and 3 people you hold dear to your heart.
-Be gentle and compassionate with yourself. We tend to be the hardest on ourselves, especially on this day, we may end up wondering how some of the choices we’ve made got us to where we are…just for today STOP. Take a deep breathe and pat yourself on the back. Know that you are infinitely loved and surrounded by things you cannot see, people you have yet to meet. That your very presence right now is an important part of the universe.
-Laugh. If you are reading this and feeling schlumpy, I’ve got an exercise for you. Get up from the chair and away from the computer for a moment. Lift your arm up in the air as high as you can. And JUMP! Jump up and down for about 30 seconds and I guarantee it will instill some silliness energy in you enough to put a smile on your face.
Even in change, there can be love around the corner.
Until next time, a big virtual hug extended to you and your community