A life changing experience. One that has you suck in a deep breath, maybe causing life events to pass before your very eyes, and definitely changing forever who you were yesterday.
Today, you wake, holding those you love closer, everything feels more vibrant.
How can we capture the essence of this very experience
and not have it dulled by everyday chores, the must do’s that can easily be all consuming?
I was reminded by this article by the New York Times about the Top 5 regrets people have on their deathbed. Here is the list. You can read the article here.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Today, in getting on with the business of living, I extend an invitation. (I’ve channeled my dogs and my 5 year old daughter as my inspiration behind my list, as they continually teach me to live and love more fully.)
Below is my response to the 5 things. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest.
1. Build a daily practice. Build in something to anchor your beliefs. Being true to yourself takes quieting the “not good enough voice”. When we are in our center, we do not question our decisions. What is important bubbles up to the top naturally, vs. what you “have to do”.
2. Money is just an exchange of energy. Don’t let it own you. Bring love consciousness to your relationship with money versus lack. I love this quote by Zig Zaglar. “Money will buy you a bed, but not a good night’s sleep, a house but not a home, a companion but not a friend.” I want to add to the mix, a pet but not an endless supply of unconditional love.
3. Stop being a peacekeeper. I know sometimes, I notice tend to people please to keep the peace. Especially with family. Practice saying no. Stand in the mirror and practice saying something you are afraid to voice. Try not to judge what you are saying. My 2 dogs, Shanti and Lulu sometimes have a tussle. They don’t try to keep the peace. It’s out, an then back to business as usual. They don’t hold a grudge either.
4. Make it important. When my daughter wants to set up a play date, it is at the forefront of her mind. It is muy importante! She will ask “Mommie, can I have a playdate today, can she come over NOW?” It’s never next week. It’s always NOW. 😉 So my advice, SCHEDULE it in. Set an alarm on your Iphone, smartphone, write it in your calendar to reach out to one friend a day. It’s THAT easy.
5. Have some FUN everyday. Laugh. Giggle. Silliness. Pick a fun thing for you to do that is FREE. (I love giving and receiving hugs! From my dogs, my love bug Kayman, multiple times a day)
Join me in trying this out for a day, a week, , a month. Commit to doing one thing on this list a day. Or perhaps all 5. What you do is up to you. Will you post your experience below?
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, what keeps you motivated to get on with the business of life?
As always, I am so grateful you’ve taken a moment of your day to visit with me. If you know someone who is grieving, I would love to support them through their journey. Click here to find out more.
PS- If you are or know of someone going through anticipatory pet loss/pet loss, we were featured in an article by Embrace Pet Insurance filled with practical tools and tips on getting on with the business of life for pet owners. Click here to read.